How Mindfulness Can Help you Deal with the Stress of Breast Cancer
Staying in the present can help you face life’s challenges with calm confidence
People often turn to a practice called mindfulness to deal with stress, also known as living in the moment. Mindfulness, the current buzzword in self-help literature and positive psychology, can certainly help with anxiety and stress, but its merits aren’t limited to stress relief alone.
“Mindfulness is basically about being aware of what’s happening in one’s present experience, with acceptance,” says Robert Siegel, Psy.D., assistant clinical professor of Psychology at Harvard Medical School and author of The Mindfulness Solution: Everyday Practices for Everyday Problems. “It’s really an attitude toward experience.”
That recipe sounds pretty simple: pay attention to your own life. It isn’t until you sit down and try to practice mindfulness, though, that you see how difficult it can be. In fact, says Siegel, when we try, we realize that we’re living in “a narrative thought stream about some imaginary past that we call memories, or some imaginary future. We’re so caught up thinking about our past and future that we rarely stop to taste our food, smell the spring morning air, or even truly listen to our friends in conversation.”
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It turns out that almost everything that distresses us has to do with these thoughts about the past and the future, Siegel explains. This is particularly true for a cancer patient or survivor who worries about what she might have done to cause or deserve the cancer (chances are, nothing) and whether it might recur. Mindfulness can help deal with that stress.
Sometimes it isn’t very obvious when we’re living mindlessly, adds Laura Porter, Ph.D., clinical psychologist in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences/Medical Psychology at Duke University Medical Center. “We’ve all had the experience of driving somewhere in your car, somewhere you go all the time, and when you get there, you have no recollection of how you got there.” We are so caught up in our thoughts – our plans, self-criticism, imagined conversations – that we miss much of what is going on around us, she explains.
Practicing mindfulness can train your brain to stop ruminating and focus on the moment. In the way that someone who hits the gym regularly is better able to spring across the street if the need arises, practicing mindfulness to deal with stress allows you to tap into those mental muscles when anxiety or depression hit.
By using mindfulness to deal with stress, and focusing on the here-and-now, we eliminate these fears and concerns for the past and future. We see that our experience changes from moment to moment: something that is disturbing at ten o’clock may not be as much of a concern at ten minutes past. In this way, we become less tense – and we’re better able to surf the waves of pleasure and pain.
“By expanding your mindfulness,” says Porter, “you notice and appreciate things – especially what is functioning well and feels good.”
You learn to be kinder to yourself, to forgive yourself even in the midst of difficult emotions, agrees Diana Winston, director of mindfulness education at UCLA’s Mindfulness Awareness Research Center and co-author of Fully Present: The Science, Art, and Practice of Mindfulness. “People who practice mindfulness to deal with stress show others more kindness,” she adds. “They wish others well and wish themselves well.”
How Stress Affects Your Body
Think about the toll stress takes on our bodies. While we’re rarely being threatened by the proverbial sabre-tooth tiger, our bodies experience that same ‘fight or flight’ response that speeds up our heartbeat and breathing, and then lands in our shoulders or in the pit of our stomach. Even though we’re not worried about preserving life and limb, and are probably only thinking about whether we are happy or sad, angry or relieved, or successful in whatever we’re doing, these stresses are physical.
Mindfulness has an opposite bodily effect, explains Winston. It reduces inflammation, which is connected to the rise of cancers, and can even affect the brain itself. That’s not to suggest that using mindfulness to deal with stress can prevent cancer, but it certainly can help cope with the pain. “It teaches you to just be present with the pain, to soften around it, to learn to tolerate it,” says Winston.
A Direct Route to Mindfulness: Noticing New Things
Ellen Langer, Ph.D., mindfulness expert, experimental social psychologist and psychology professor at Harvard University, proposes a more direct route to mindfulness: notice new things. “When you notice new things,” says Langer, “you come to see that information is context-dependent. In other words, things look different from different perspectives. The more you notice about things that you thought you knew, the more you become aware of everything that you didn’t notice,” Langer adds. And that uncertainty becomes the rule rather than the exception.
“Forty years or so of research shows that the very simple process of noticing new things is literally and figuratively enlivening,” says Langer. “We give people instructions to notice new things – and they live longer and their health improves.” Mindfulness is proven to deal with stress from these studies.
The catch is that this process requires shifting the way you look at the world – in essence, continually looking at the world through new eyes. “Nothing is permanent, everything is changing and everything looks different from different perspectives,” says Langer. “We tend to hold it still with our minds even though it’s actually changing. So what we want to do is acknowledge and look for the changes.” This is mindfulness, and it can help you deal with stress.
For instance, rather than operating on autopilot when you go food shopping, look around the store. The products might be slightly different than last week. Or they might be organized in another way than they were. There might be different staff members and even the people shopping alongside you are probably not the same neighbours you saw there the previous week.
- Wash breakfast dishes using your senses. Enjoy the warm water on your hands; appreciate the meal you’ve just tasted.
- Set an hourly timer on your phone or computer as a reminder to come back to present.
- Allow your thoughts to pass gently, as leaves falling, without judgment.
And you can return to these simple tools whenever necessary, adds Winston. “You can really be mindful when you’re walking down the street, when you’re eating, or even when you’re about to go into a meeting and are feeling really stressed.” It can help you feel more relaxed and be more effective.
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So, what can we do to bring a more mindful approach into our lives? The first step, says Langer, is to actively engage the world around you. Just focus on what is going on – the ever-changing sights, sounds, smells in your environment.
Using mindfulness to deal with stress, says Langer, isn’t about specific exercise regimens – though some yoga programs do promote mindfulness – or about particular diets or medical protocols. It is about acceptance, opening our minds, focusing on the present moment, and gaining control over our lives. And it is about enhancing our joy and appreciation.